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Sexy underwear or Granny-pants?

sexyundiesUsually women feel the urge to clean out every cupboard when they are either frustrated, need the space for more stuff, pregnant and about to give birth or just damn OCD.

Anyway, I have experienced all of the above. Lately though, it has been more about need the space for my son’s stuff!! Cause he is taking over every part of my life and house. To think it was going to be hubby who would do that only, well think again.

So I was being a little too thorough when I decided that I didn’t need to only put away my endless summer clothes (that I never wear in this country), but to also go through everything I own again and decide what to keep and what to chuck. My husband usually gives me his old shirts to clean with, well I just chuck everything of mine. Can you imagine if I decide to wear it by accident again, after cleaning a  table? THE HORROR.

It was getting pretty embarrassing every time I had to answer the door and the person on the other side would have to see a strange woman with uncombed hair and like old pyjamas. So you get a bit hot in the face, or you just don’t care… but either way you end up saying something like “I am a busy mom” to try and excuse yourself. They all seem to nod with understanding, but I bet you deep inside they are thinking, “This woman is not coping!”. Whatever, I like my pyjamas and I can stay in them as long as I please! No, seriously though, I need to get a grip.

I have thrown all my old pyjamas away. It seems my mother-in-law always brings me new pyjamas when she visits and I think she is probably hinting at something. 🙂

After reviewing my shirts, I decided it was time to review the underwear section of my wardrobe. My son, who was sitting by my side, seemed very interested in my bras. He kept dragging them around and throwing them in and out of the box. I think he may become a boob man! Disturbing thought.

I noticed I had all sorts of underwear and then it hit me. I have been collecting underwear through the years and each one represented a part of my life. Who would have thought underwear does that? First it was hipsters and boyshorts (the young years), then it was the G-strings and thongs (sexy times)… we all know what the dental floss is for? Trust me I don’t anymore really.Then it was the tangas(feeling a little less sexy and a bit more mature), followed by normal briefs and bikinis(settled). You don’t want to know what comes next!!

GRANNY PANTS – the pregnancy era!

I remember being in the labour room and about to give birth, the head midwife comes into the room, zaps a photo of my butt (in the granny pants) and threatens to post it on Facebook! saying… “Who the hell wears that?” They were horrid, BUT comfortable.

So that’s life in the shape of underwear.

I have now decided that we really could use some variety and have a balanced underwear drawer. Who knows when I will need GRANNYPANTS again. By the way, my husband finds them hideous, but hey did he become and elephant?

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To IPhone or not to IPhone that is the household question!

So, recently my husband and I have just had it with our Samsung S3‘s. They are driving us mental! They freeze up for no reason at all, then you have to restart the wifi sometimes cause it doesn’t work,  or the phone will decided to restart on it’s own for no good reason etc.

I went to Vodafone and complained about the phone so that they could do something about it, but you know it had recently been services so what were they really going to do with it? Update the software,…. it was the latest version! The guy at the till told me that he also has a Samsung and he has had no problems with it. Ok, that’s nice. My husband and several friends have exactly the same issues as me, I am not fabricating!

In the end I decided to go for the IPhone, ok maybe it was those pesky, repeating emails about upgrading to the new S5. It makes sense right?  I mean everything at home is apple. But the thing is, well.. the phones are getting ridiculously expensive and not offering much more than the older versions.

The major difference between the IPhone 5 and IPhone 5s is the chip set, the biometric reader (big deal) and 2 hours extra battery life. The processor anyway seems to be the same.

Specs for the two phones.colourful plastc

I think the weirdest thing is that there are people out there buying the IPhone 5c’s? WHY?

There is no difference between the two phones. In the end you just paying a hell of a lot more money for a plastic casing, why not buy yourself a £10 cover?

Apple has apparently discontinued the manufacturing of the apple 4 and 5’s and there are forcing you to pay more money for the new handsets. That is a bit of disgrace, but hey.

iPhone 5 iPhone 5C
16 GB £529 £469
32 GB £599 £549
64 GB £699 n/a

It looks like I can’t wait till the end of next year, and what more can they really do to improve these phones anyhow?

So I will have to settle for an IPhone 5s on a contract for 12 months, with a discount from Vodafone on a corporate deal. Works out cheaper than a 24 month contract and you can upgrade in a year again!

By the way apparently there is a long wait for the gold version and it looks kinda cheap.

On a phone where you can’t put extra memory, I highly recommend getting the 32GB version. It seems silly to go for less in this digital age. And please, please, please don’t be the odd person that buys a green or yellow IPhone 5c!

So what if my baby wears Ralph Lauren from time to time?

My baby boy is one month short of a year and I have finally decided that parenting is a full time job. It is probably the most rewarding and frustrating job you might have, but the benefits are endless and absolutely gob smacking amazing.

When it gets tough, you got no option but to get tougher. When it gets rough, you got no option but to keep going….. and when they get a cold… you get one too eventually. Worst of all is, you can’t call in sick!!! You can call friends and parents, but moaning won’t help, they’ll just tell you “that’s the way it is” and “we have all been through it”.

The big question after all is, “Are you prepared for another one?”.

I have to say that question has been swimming in my head for some time now and there are a lot of mixed emotions. I absolutely love spoiling my child. The old me would have said…”Why do kids have to wear labels, they grow out of their clothes so quickly and it will just be a waste of money?”. I didn’t realise I would  completely cut down spending on myself and just spend on my child. Anything from educational toys, fancy clothes, books and everything in between. Even dinner has become a permanent gourmet session.  Would I have to stop spoiling him when I have a second, because I would have to cut down on spending? Or would it be cheaper as you got some hand-me-downs? Do you have to share your love?

When I hugged my child tonight to put him to bed I thought to myself, thank you God for blessing me with this wonderful baby and for allowing me to become a mom. Lately I have been reading on facebook a lot of messages about how wonderful moms are. I bet a lot of those messages are written by moms. First you don’t really get to appreciate your mom until you have one. You realise how unselfish she really is. To be a mom you have to give freely, everything… literally. I mean I don’t eat half the time cause my son wants my food, even-though it’s the same as his. The best pieces now go to him, everything is reserved and booked and cooked according to the babies needs. The husband also kinda takes a backseat.

What we forget about is how wonderful our kids are and how much satisfaction you get from the little things. My parents and parents in-law are the same as us, all you hear is “Look at him, look what he is doing!” He may have done it 20 times, but it’s just as exciting when you see it happen again and again, until he masters that skill. It’s funny, because we satisfied with just a smile in the beginning and then everything they learn is like a major achievement. Every time my son goes to the toilet to do a number two in the potty I get so super excited and now he even claps for me when he is finished. I don’t see him doing that when he is 20, do you? He will probably be completely embarrassed if he had to read this in the future.

I was saying something to a friend of mine the other day that makes me look at life in a completely different light. Whenever someone ever asked me my age I would say 1 year higher than I was, I was constantly sprinting ahead. When I hit 24 I stopped that habit and now it’s like, “How old am I? Oh, I don’t know! Let’s calculated… 1..2..3…….uhm.. twenty-…?”


When our children are first born we just super excited about having them and we can’t wait till they can roll-over, sit-up, crawl… etc. We compare them to the other kids their age. We wonder why our kids haven’t learnt to do this or that as quickly as their peers. STOP and slow down.

Do you really want them to grow up so quickly? They won’t be babies anymore.

Do you really think they won’t learn those skills eventually anyway? Of course they will.

Just because Jerry got his first tooth at 4 months and yours at 14 months! So what, did you ask Jerry’s mom how it feels. She was probably totally excited about it when it happened, or maybe under slept and then she realised she has to brush the tooth. 10 months of brushing you didn’t have to do!! Turn the negative thinking into positive thinking and let nature just run it’s course.

Anyway, I enjoy being a mom and wondering if I can repeat it all over again. Oh and who cares if they grow out of the expensive clothes, at least they look cute in them. By the way, you can buy it on SALE :).

My little boy is 7 months old already

IMG-20130503-WA0001It seems like yesterday when Dino came into this world and yet yesterday was his first name day and he recently turned 7 months.

I can’t believe how quickly time has flown by. At Christmas time I had very close friends come over with their 9 month old daughter, I remember thinking to myself how grown up her baby was already. I saw her as a toddler and not as a little baby, which is really strange now because my son is 7 months and I still see him as my little baby. I guess I may always feel that way. I have immensely enjoyed every second of motherhood, yes even the bad times, as I see my son gazing into my eyes for any kind of reaction. Now he just babbles to himself and coos at me from time to time which is ever so sweet. When we wake up in the morning he wants mommy cuddles and he strokes my face, minus the accidental eye poking experience. We laugh, bath and play together endlessly eventhough sometimes I feel I am going to faint from sheer exhaustion.

I realize that giving him specific foods influences his moods also, so I have always tried to be cautious. I gave him grapes yesterday and I just couldn’t keep up with his energy levels which suddenly spiked out of this world. I keep thinking about when we finally decide to have another one how it would feel and how it would fit in with my precious boy and his demand for constant attention. Children are so precious and they really really do change your life in a drastic way, you even can’t watch movies in the same way anymore. This weekend we watch “The Impossible” and all I kept thinking was What is going through that mother’s mind? She is probably clinging onto life and her tired body for her little boy”. I feel sorry for all those people in Oklahoma or in Boston whose kids have been injured in these disastrous events. I can’t even begin to imagine what they are going through. Your life is your kids, they are your everything, your heart, your mind, your soul. What would you give to them, I would give them everything of me.

More than ever I feel that nothing else material matters anymore and that the outside world can go on and try and affect me but as long as my child is nearby and healthy I wouldn’t care less.

The there is watching Toy Story 3 when the child is no longer a child but a young adult going to college and the last scene is when the mommy walks into an empty room and realises that this baby is now ready to be a man and eventually he will have his own children. All I can say is, thank god that day is still far away and I still got plenty of time.

I see life differently

My parents and grandparents always used to say “You have to study something that is serious and stable.”


When I was little I wanted to be a doctor, I guess we all go through those different stages of professional interest. I used to use my grandmother’s stethoscope and listen to the hearts and lungs of my friends. I used beg my mother to take me with her on her ward rounds or whenever they called her when she was on night duty. I used to roam around the hospitals with my dad and help him out during small surgeries. I learned a lot of things, like the names of instruments, the names of syndromes, how to read x-rays and my mother used to test me on the subject also. I enjoyed it so much that it became part of who I was.

I was always good at drawing and I used to have my pictures featured on the walls of all the schools I went to as a child. It was my strongest subject. As I got older and finally went to highschool I continued to study design and art, I explored going to guitar lessons, dancing and  acting. More than anything I wanted to be involved in producing animation movies. My mother even took me to a company that made all the animations for one of the leading SA channels.

My parents could see that things were going differently to what they were hoping would happen for me. They had told me that medicine is not for someone like me, it is a lot of studying (all your life) and also not a family kind of job. I suppose now looking back at this, I feel that it is a lot of hard work and maybe I would have taken a lot of emotional things home that would have not been the most pleasant. My love for helping people always comes up when I do come into contact with these things and far more than anything it feels like it is in me to be a good doctor and someone who will see things easily and diagnose quickly. None the less I said to them that I wanted to do arts. After all their support in my interest they finally said it is not the best thing and there is not a lot of money in it. I think they probably didn’t think I was capable of making it big or because I would be struggling or maybe because they didn’t have the connections to help me.

In the end I was influenced to choose something else and I chose to do engineering. I thought that would be best, because I was creative and it would use my entrepreneurial skills. I was strong at selling and that combination I thought could be put to good use.

After many years of working hard and doing quite well in “my profession”, I realized that actually I am not using my direct engineering skills and working as a manager and using my business skills more.

I always remember something that I now despise, I used to look down on people who studied those subjects and not “something serious”. Maybe I was longing and wanting to do this myself and therefore was looking down on them.  How sad and pathetic.

Anyway, I am past this aspect of my life and now I am so proud of people who have had the courage to just go ahead and do what they believe in. Finally I am really looking forward to just being that person who I was meant to be, to giving up having to conform and exploring my potential. All I can hope and pray for is that others do the same.

It isn’t what the government says: We need these skills in the country so we will only sponsor you if you do that, or you can’t come into our country unless you do this…. It’s madness!

Be free people.

Weaning anyone? Feed me mommy!

So I guess there are many ways to wean a baby and this post is not meant to tell you how to do it, but merely inform you on how I have gone about it.

If you are a regular reader you would know that my boy is a sensitive little chap with loads of food allergies in the family, as well as already being really tough to feed I knew this would be a challenge. I had a routine appointment with the paediatrician at the hospital and this is when I asked about weaning. I didn’t get much information at all, they suggested that I go and see a dietician and said that they believed that now that he is over 4 months and given his low weight he should be weaned.

I read a lot of things on the net about allergies and when you should or should not introduce certain foods, a few things are crystal clear and I totally agree with them:

1. Don’t wean your baby if they are younger than 4 months old

2. You should continue breastfeeding if you can, this is still the main food for your baby

3. Don’t wait till your baby is 6 months old to start giving a spoonful of something, they are more likely to become fussy eaters and by this stage your baby should be getting iron and other supplements from other foods as your breastmilk is not enough and if you have waited it means your weaning has to take a faster pace. Some children can do this, while others like my son need more time.

At 4 months and a bit I decided to start giving my baby his first taste of things. Everyone says start with baby rice cause it is easy, well my son didn’t like this at all and we started with banana mash :). One spoonful of it, the next day the same. I did this three days in a row. Then I made potato and did the same, then I did sweet potato and did the same. Every three days I introduced a new food, ever observing my son’s poo and watched out for signs of any allergies. When he had the following range of fruit and veg (apple, carrot, potato, sweet potato, banana, pear and avocado, but i found that was quite heavy), I decided to get the baby rice. I began mixing baby rice with banana and breastmilk (30 /40ml) and feeding him this 1.5 hours after he had his milk.

Mixing this range of food in different combos is limiting, but it allows his tummy to slowly get used to things. When he was around 5.5 months I started giving larger portion s and replaced first one meal at 11am and then another at 7pm. I gave the evening meal as solid with the intention to allow him a better through the night sleep. Although that worked for about a week and a half, my son now does not sleep through the night and wants milk every three hours.weaning

When I began the larger portions I introduced a wider variety of food also (kale, spinach, swede, broccoli, onions, squash, brusselsprouts, cabbage, courgette and watercress) and he has now even had fish and chicken and he is only 6 months. As well as this protein every second day I give my son 1/2 well cooked egg yolk mixed in the food, I started with 1/4 initially. He loves it!

I also introduced two spices oregano and black pepper. He also has been eating blueberries, papaya and mango. I make him juice from carrots, apple and pear. He also just started drinking some mineral water from a sippy cup, which i introduce 4 times a day to get him used to it.

They say using the teat bottle at this age is not appropriate and it can ruin their bite.

We don’t use baby rice any more, my son eats risotto rice which has been pureed slightly. We give him fruit to eat from ripe fruit directly and he feeds himself. He bites pears and bananas, sucks on apples. We bought him his own cutlery with little stoppers so he doesn’t choke, so he can feed himself. We also try to give the food in more chunkier pieces.

My boy is not the heaviest, but he is in the 91% for height. It seems his focus is on growing tall!

I have also introduced the potty, so now he poos in it every day and sometimes wees in it, so I don’t have to change any nasty looking diappies.

I try to make a batch of food in one go, you need a lot of veggies to make food. I try to put 5 different veggies in his evening meal with a bit of rice, which is cooked in breastmilk. In the morning we eat our fruits.

If you think your child might not be allergic to milk then you can go ahead and give them some of those products, but I have seen a lot of kids reacting getting snotty and mucussy and having diarrhoea.

I don’t give any breads, baby cereals, yoghurts, cookies, biscuits, no sugars, no additional salt. I believe all those things have no real nutritional value and they are harmful to your baby. If you are breastfeeding your baby is getting enough calcium and this is confirmed by our paediatrician. Biscuits and such things are just additional gluten products that can allow for candida to grow in your babies bowels and then they will be susceptible to allergies, getting sick etc. You are also teaching your baby their eating habbits for the future, so do be careful what you get them used to. We don’t do snacks at the moment, but when he is older the only snacks will be fruit and such, I would not want to encourage obesity from eating cookies etc. As those cookies will contain sugar even if the baby ones don’t.

This is ofcourse my opinion and my experience, you have the choice to do what you want and enjoy every moment of the journey. Good luck!

All the products that I use are organic, when an organic alternative is not available then we are using what we can to achieve a balanced diet.

One thing I would recommend is to start your baby early if you wish to do baby led weaning, because by the time they are six months they need to extra nutrition. We do a combination of baby led weaning now, but we didn’t do it in the beginning as we wanted to prepare our son’s tummy and bowels for the foods he was about to receive in larger quantities. The set meals are always fed by me and at the end he can eat on his own if he wants to, so I ensure he gets enough of what he needs and if he is interested in something that I am eating I will give him a piece if I think it is ok for him to eat it, he will grab it and put it in his mouth. He doesn’t have any teeth, but he chews really well.

I do not recommend you force your child to eat something, they usually know what they want. If you force them, they might not want to eat it again. So let them guide you to the quantities they feel comfortable to eat. My son eats over 150ml of food during his feeds.

I decided to feed my son my own cooked food because I didn’t trust what was sold commercially and because the ingredients used concentrates etc.

I have really been proud to have fed my son healthy food and to see him flourishing.

Why lose frienship over jealousy?

There have been many times that I have wanted to write this post, but sadly I haven’t had the chance and I hope for once the things that have been circling in my head can be put to rest.

When I was just a little girl at school I got beat up by a much larger girl and lost my earing. At the time I didn’t know why I was beimg beaten up and he earing I lost had been given by my grandmother to my mother and then me.  Such a beautiful gift lost. When I went home that night my mother told me that it was jealousy.

Then when I was a teenager I was being picked on by three girls. I made a mockery out of all the verbal abuse and the people that got hurt were those girls not me. When I told my mother afterwards, she had a chat with one of the girl’s moms,  she told me it was jealousy.

Funny enough the only time I really felt jealous was when my husband was looking at beautiful girls in these “health” magazines, this was when we were teenagers and I remember my dad pouring more oil onto that fire. It was because my mother had given me a complex over my weight, eventhough I was a thin child.

None the less, this green eyed monster has made me lose a few friends along the way.  I didn’t even know people felt that way towards me, shows how niave I can be.

Jealousy is not necessary and it only brings about pain and then people play games to hurt one another. Doesn’t your conscience warn you when it is happening? I mean it is something you do viciously and with intention. It is premeditated and horrid.

More so, I have lost friends because I have gotten too involved in their personal business. For example I remember one time when my best friend who lived with me in university went out and never came home till 4 am in  the morning and I knew she had a flight at 6am. I wanted to say goodbye for the summer break and that is how I noticed she was missing, cause naturally I waited up for her. As the hours went by I grew more anxious and coming from a country like south africa your mind starts to wonder. So I called all our friends and she was nowhere and finally I called the police.  When she arrived I told her what I’d done. She basically called me stupid and who do I think I am, slammed the door and left. I felt really hurt.

None the less I have always given my opinion and sometimes when I have myself come to a decision over something when preaching why I don’t always consider how the other person might feel about it. And that it can hurt them cause their ideas are different and I can be quite domineering.

Sometimes I think because I have degrees and and because I study a lot and do research that I know better.
Bit actually what is important is for a person to fewl comfortable with their decisions and you to support them even if you think they are wrong and you can always tell them in a nice way what you think. My tongue sometimes escapes me and I feel the need to justify myself and stand my ground due to my past, but I vow to change that and be more considerate.

I am not always right and no one is always right,  nor are people issues rifht or wrong. They just have a different outcome depending on our choices. I think the important thing is to have a clear karma and to be a good soul.

Ignorance is not an excuse and if your opinion isn’t asked for then maybe consider just listening and not talking. Wow, is that going to be hard for an opinionated individual like myself. 🙂 x