Why lose frienship over jealousy?

There have been many times that I have wanted to write this post, but sadly I haven’t had the chance and I hope for once the things that have been circling in my head can be put to rest.

When I was just a little girl at school I got beat up by a much larger girl and lost my earing. At the time I didn’t know why I was beimg beaten up and he earing I lost had been given by my grandmother to my mother and then me.  Such a beautiful gift lost. When I went home that night my mother told me that it was jealousy.

Then when I was a teenager I was being picked on by three girls. I made a mockery out of all the verbal abuse and the people that got hurt were those girls not me. When I told my mother afterwards, she had a chat with one of the girl’s moms,  she told me it was jealousy.

Funny enough the only time I really felt jealous was when my husband was looking at beautiful girls in these “health” magazines, this was when we were teenagers and I remember my dad pouring more oil onto that fire. It was because my mother had given me a complex over my weight, eventhough I was a thin child.

None the less, this green eyed monster has made me lose a few friends along the way.  I didn’t even know people felt that way towards me, shows how niave I can be.

More so, I have lost friends because I have gotten too involved in their personal business. For example I remember one time when my best friend who lived with me in university went out and never came home till 4 am in  the morning and I knew she had a flight at 6am. I wanted to say goodbye for the summer break and that is how I noticed she was missing, cause naturally I waited up for her. As the hours went by I grew more anxious and coming from a country like south africa your mind starts to wonder. So I called all our friends and she was nowhere and finally I called the police.  When she arrived I told her what I’d done. She basically called me stupid and who do I think I am, slammed the door and left. I felt really hurt.

None the less I have always given my opinion and sometimes when I have myself come to a decision over something when preaching why I don’t always consider how the other person might feel about it. And that it can hurt them cause their ideas are different and I can be quite domineering.

Sometimes I think because I have degrees and and because I study a lot and do research that I know better.
Bit actually what is important is for a person to fewl comfortable with their decisions and you to support them even if you think they are wrong and you can always tell them in a nice way what you think. My tongue sometimes escapes me and I feel the need to justify myself and stand my ground due to my past, but I vow to change that and be more considerate.

I am not always right and no one is always right,  nor are people issues rifht or wrong. They just have a different outcome depending on our choices. I think the important thing is to have a clear karma and to be a good soul.

Ignorance is not an excuse and if your opinion isn’t asked for then maybe consider just listening and not talking. Wow, is that going to be hard for an opinionated individual like myself. 🙂 x


Mastitis Self-Help

Recently a friend called me up for some advice about treating mastitis. I realized that I have read a lot on the topic and the majority of information is about treating this with medication. Contrary to popular belief this can be treated without medication and only the really serious cases should be treated with antibiotics.

I have what I call “recurring mastitis” and have suffered 4 times the wrath of it, this before I figured out how to avoid and treat it sufficiently. Suffice to say that I had no help from the 5 medical professionals that have been involved with my care at any one time or another. According to statistics most people get it in the beginning, this is called lactation mastitis. I have heard may women suffering from it throughout the breastfeeding period. It is more likely to happen after a growth spurt, when your milk supply increases or during a hunger strike, when your baby is not eating enough to keep the milk out of your breasts. It can also happen when you move your baby onto solids and are starting to reduce breastfeeding. It also can happen because other influences, like because you have under-developed milk ducts and then you are likely to get it over and over, unless you find a way to prevent it. breastfeeding

– feed your baby as much as you can and keep those boobs empty
– pump your breasts at least once a day until they are empty, even when you think they are empty go another 5 min
– never wear a bra. The minute I stopped wearing a bra I reduced my chances of getting mastitis by 95%.

Have the following things on hand:
1) heat and cold patches / compresses (do a cold compress after feeding and a hot before)
2) the bathtub, put some lavender and soak 🙂 daily
3) a small towel, you will wet it and heat your breasts for five minutes and massage the area that is particularly painful
4) a pump, pump after every feed and every 2 hours if you have severe symptoms of mastitis
5) fruit – eat plenty of antioxidant – red berries and pomegranates
6) I have been recommended to take lecithin in order to help the fat and water content in my breasts to separate appropriately and reduce the chances of mastitis ( I have not taken this myself, but a lot of women recommend it)
7) Vitamin C is excellent for reducing any inflammation and therefore I recommend you take 1500mg a day for a couple of days to help reduce the swelling
8) Lots of sleep
9) stay at home and don’t over exert yourself
10) make sure your nipples are clean and not chipped. Use some form of vaseline or lanolin to keep them moisturised. Sometimes a cracked nipple can cause severe pain mimicking pain of mastitis.
11) drink lots of water!

All of the above should help you sort out the inflammation, which can be like a little clot in your boob with shooting pains. Within 48 hours things should improve significantly, to get rid of the problem completely you looking at about a week. Don’t give up and persevere.

Your milk might taste a little saltier to the baby and some babies may refuse to feed as per normal, that is why it is important to pump. Please above all else, don’t sleep through the night with mastitis. The reason why mastitis occurs is because you have trapped milk in the milk tissue and the longer it stays there the chances that you can get an infection and the area becomes inflamed. Infectious mastitis may develop if bacteria gets into your milk ducts.Left untreated, non-infectious mastitis can develop into infectious mastitis. This may be due to bacteria infecting milk that remains in the breast tissue.

If you have red spots on your boobs that are not going away, if you have high fever, if you are shivering, if you have a large lump that after pumping for a few days doesn’t resolve, if you feel dizzy and very drowsy with flu like symptoms that don’t resolve within 48 hours. Please see your doctor!! Your lymph nodes may be swollen and you may very well need antibiotics. Take antibiotics as a last resort, as it kills your gut flora and that of your babies tummy, not good.

As an adult human, you have three to four pounds of beneficial bacteria and yeast living within your intestines. These microbes compete for nutrients from the food you eat. Usually, the strength in numbers beneficial bacteria enjoy both keeps the ever-present yeasts in check and causes them to produce nutrients such as the B vitamins.

However, every time you swallow antibiotics, you kill the beneficial bacteria within your intestines. When you do so, you upset the delicate balance of your intestinal terrain. Yeasts grow unchecked into large colonies and take over, in a condition called dysbiosis.

Yeasts are opportunistic organisms. This means that, as the intestinal bacteria die, yeasts thrive, especially when their dietary needs are met. They can use their tendrils, or hyphae, to literally poke holes through the lining of your intestinal wall. This results in a syndrome called leaky gut. Yeasts are not the only possible cause of this syndrome. Some scientists have linked non-steroidal, anti-inflammatory drugs (NSAIDS) such as naproxen and ibuprofen to the problem. Given their ability to alter intestinal terrain, antibiotics also likely contribute to leaky gut syndrome.

In addition to possibly causing leaky gut syndrome, I believe that parasitic yeasts can also cause you to change what you eat in that they encourage you to binge on carbohydrates including pasta, bread, sugar, potatoes, etc. So, it should come as no surprise that weight gain counts as one of the telltale signs of antibiotic damage and subsequent yeast overgrowth.

By altering the normal terrain of the intestines, antibiotics can also make food allergies more likely. An array of intestinal disorders can ensue, as well. Sadly, most doctors claim ignorance concerning their patients’ intestinal disorders rather than admit that the drugs they themselves prescribed actually caused the disorders to begin with.

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If you must take antibiotics restore your gut flora by :

Balancing your diet. A good daily diet follows a rule of thirds: no more than one third of your daily calories coming from each of the following — carbohydrates, protein and fats. Get 25 to 30 grams of fibre each day from whole grains, fruits and vegetables. Get your proteins from lean cuts of meat, beans and nuts. If you can, incorporate low-fat dairy (greek style yoghurt)
for calcium ( if you can’t eat dairy then don’t) and added protein. Stock up on good monounsaturated fats found in foods such as olive oil and avocados.

Vitamin B12 deficiency particularly in vegetarians

I know it the past I have written about eating meat, well there is a downside to not eating meat at all and that is the potential that one becomes vitamin b12 deficient. This vitamin is absolutely vital for our system as it helps keep levels of the amino acid homocysteine in check, not only this but it also works to make up our genetic material in our bodies.(make red blood cells, nerves, DNA, and carry out other functions. The average adult should get 2.4 micrograms a day.)


Vitamin B12 deficiency can have a number of possible causes. Typically it occurs in people whose digestive systems do not adequately absorb the vitamin from the foods they eat. So generally vegetarians are more at risk and people who have undergone weight loss surgery.

If you do become anaemic you will begin to experience a lot of symptoms:

  • Weakness, tiredness or light-headedness
  • rapid heartbeat and breathing
  • pale skin
  • sore tongue
  • easy bruising or bleeding, including bleeding gums
  • stomach upset and weight loss
  • diarrhea or constipation

If the deficiency is not corrected, it can damage the nerve cells. If this happens, vitamin B12 deficiency effects may include:

  • tingling or numbness in fingers and toes
  • difficulty walking
  • mood changes or depression
  • memory loss, disorientation, and dementia

B12 deficiency in infants, if not detected and treated, can lead to severe and permanent damage to the nervous system. New mothers who follow a vegetarian diet should have their babies’ B12 levels checked by a doctor.

For most people, treatment resolves the anemia; however, any nerve damage that has occurred as a result of the deficiency could be permanent.

A Harvard Health article published the effects of study done by the Medical Journal on a 62 year old man who exhibited symptoms of “pins and needles” sensation in his hands, had trouble walking, experienced severe joint pain, began turning yellow, and became progressively short of breath. On analysis it was found that he was vitamin b12 deficient and this had occurred within just 2 months.

It could have been worse—a severe vitamin B12 deficiency can lead to deep depression, paranoia and delusions, memory loss, incontinence, loss of taste and smell, and more, according to another article in the New England Journal.

According to Dr Chandy you can cure hair loss with vitamin b12 injections also. According to nhs he is not practicing medicine according to their regulations. However it has helped people significantly.

Check this out.

vitamin B12 absorption by the gut is less effective than a shot directly into muscle, a higher dose is often needed when taken orally. Over-the-counter pills in high enough doses for treatment might be difficult to find, so you might need to take three or more pills to make up your necessary daily dose.

Which supplements should you not overdose on?

Many people take supplements due to the belief that the food that we eat is not nutritious enough, or we cannot get enough of it in our diet and therefore there is a definite need for supplementation. Some people truly believe that they can cut out certain foods because they are taking a supplement for it. So I decided to write a post in order to help people who are curious about what is good and what is bad.Dietary-Supplements

Please whatever you do, do not cut foods from your diet with the belief that you can replace the real thing, because you cannot! It is like saying that taking vitamin D can replace the sun, if that were true then we would seriously be rich. The supplements do help a lot, for example :

VITAMIN D is recommended particularly in the months where we have little sun, as it helps with the absorption of calcium (calcium should be taken with magnesium also for best effects) and it reduces the chances for women in particular of getting osteoporosis. However, even if there little sunshine go out and get at least 30 min of sunshine a day. If you apply suntan lotion etc, you are going to block out the UVB rays you need to make the vitamin D in your body.

Having said that, dairy processors producing pasteurized milk have been fortifying milk with vitamin D since 1933. Today, about 98 percent of the milk supply in the U.S. is fortified with approximately 400 International Units (IU) of vitamin D per quart. While dairies used to fortify their milk with vitamin D2, most have now switched over to the far superior D3.

Because of this fortification, many people believe that drinking milk is enough to support healthy vitamin D levels, but it is very difficult to get enough vitamin D from food sources alone.

most adults need at least 8,000 IU’s of vitamin D a day in order to raise their serum levels to healthy levels.2

As for supplements, while safe sun exposure or safe tanning bed use are the best ways to optimize vitamin D, oral supplementation can be used. However, many are taking vitamin D2 (the type used in many prescription vitamin D supplements), unaware that this form is unlikely to give you the health benefits you’re seeking.

Vitamin D3 is approximately 87 percent more potent in raising and maintaining vitamin D concentrations and produces 2- to 3-fold greater storage of vitamin D than does D2.3

Regardless of which form you use, your body must also convert it into a more active form, and it is estimated that vitamin D3 is converted 500 percent faster than vitamin D2. Vitamin D2 also has a shorter shelf life, and its metabolites bind poorly with cellular receptor sites, further hampering its effectiveness. So if you decide to supplement with an oral form of vitamin D, make sure it’s D3, not D2.

SELENIUM is believed to reduce the chances of prostate cancer and help with conditions such as asthma, arthritis, dandruff and infertility. Some of these have not been proven to have been getting better with the supplementation.

Good natural food sources of selenium include:

While the body can to some extent regulate itself taking certain types of vitamins in excess can be dangerous. In the Journal of Nutrition  an article has been release showing that getting too much selenium elevated LDL cholesterol levels in test subjects by up to ten percent.Other studies have shown that high levels of selenium increase the risk of type 2 diabetes and open angle glaucoma.

Selenium Dangers: Selenium Toxicity

When there’s too much selenium in the body either from the diet or from taking supplements, a condition called selenosis can occur – a form of selenium toxicity. This condition can cause loss of hair and fingernails, nerve dysfunction, changes in personality, and digestive upset. If prolonged, the lungs and liver can be affected which can be fatal. Experts believe that selenium levels greater than 400 micrograms per day pose a risk for this condition. Surprisingly, some mushrooms, depending upon the soil they’re grown in, can have high enough levels of selenium to cause problems.

It is highly unlikely that you are missing selenium from your diet and I would avoid taking this type of supplementation.

VITAMIN C a pharmacist answered the question of whether you can overdose on vitamin C, below is the response.

it is generally not recommended to have more than 2g/day. vitamin C toxicity can result in diarrhea and stomach upset. also, vitamin C can become transient free radicals when they donate electrons, making them pro-oxidants (instead of anti-oxidants). While they are generally more stable and less damaging, too much can lead to more harm than good. high amounts of vitamin c can lead to the formation of kidney stones (vitamin c oxalate crystals)

further, vitamin c has not been shown to decrease symptoms associated with colds or to decrease duration. there is no good evidence of this, and one can conclude that it simply does not work. however, some studies have shown that vitamin c may be beneficial if given regularly BEFORE the onset of a cold (decrease duration by about 1/2 a day).

the fact that you have a cold already and you start doping yourself with vitamin c will simply not be beneficial at all. furthermore, the colds are caused by viruses and are self-limiting. they will go away on its own. save your money on something else…

the only proven thing to cure a cold is adequate hydration and good rest.

OMEGA FISH OIL is very good for you, it has been proven that reduce the risk of chronic diseases such as heart disease, cancer and arthritis. It also helps with the texture of your hair, nails, skin and your brain health. It is really good to take it when you are pregnant for the brain and nervous system development of the child. This is one supplement I would definitely recommend.

According to the American Cancer Society, it is not yet known whether taking large quantities of omega-3 fatty acids is safe or not, nor have their interactions with other drugs been established. There are indications that overdosing on omega-3 fatty acids may increase total blood cholesterol and inhibit blood clotting. Overdosing on omega-3 fatty acids may have harmful effects, such as an increased risk of bleeding, and because of this, people who take blood-thinning medications or aspirin should not take extra omega-3 fatty acids, MayoClinic.com warns.

CALCIUM Millions of people take this supplement, some because of allergies and others to help keep their ageing bones in good condition. Calcium should not be taken without magnesium, as it reduces the magnesium in the system.

The symptoms of a single, acute overdose from accidentally or intentionally taking too many calcium supplements or calcium-containing antacids at one time include stomachache, constipation or diarrhea, headache, nausea and vomiting. An overdose can ultimately lead to mental confusion, irregular heartbeat, high blood pressure and coma.

High doses of calcium supplements, vitamin D supplements, other nonfood forms of calcium such as antacids, and calcium-fortified foods consumed on a regular basis in addition to a high-calcium diet, can lead to hypercalcemia. If you are taking a multivitamin supplement that contains 100 percent or more of the daily requirement for vitamin D, do not take a calcium supplement that also contains vitamin D.Chronic high blood levels of calcium can result in kidney stone formation, kidney damage and failure, abnormal heart rhythms, calcification in areas of the body other than bone tissue, dementia and coma. Too much calcium can also interfere with iron absorption.Symptoms of mild hypercalcemia are almost nonexistent, while symptoms of more severe hypercalcemia are similar to those of an acute overdose. In addition, frequent urination and excessive thirst may signal hypercalcemia.A routine blood test indicating high levels of calcium in the blood may be the first indication of hypercalcemia. If you have mild hypercalcemia, drink plenty of water to prevent dehydration and kidney stone formation. If you have more severe hypercalcemia, your doctor may prescribe other treatments, depending on the cause.

Apart from taking supplements, you got to consider how you take them. If you take them in combination this may be rather dangerous or on the other hand not beneficial at all. For example taking calcium and iron together is a no no, because they cancel each other out.

Calcium Interference

Calcium may interfere with the absorption of iron from supplements or your diet. Although the mechanism by which calcium inhibits intestinal absorption of iron remains unclear, the threshold at which interference begins is approximately 300 mg of calcium. Most calcium supplements contain significantly more than this amount. If you are taking iron and calcium supplements, talk with your doctor about dosages, when to take each supplement and potential interactions with foods and medications. Taking your calcium supplement at bedtime and your iron supplement during the day may be a simple way to derive maximum benefit from both products.

Whatever you do decide to take, please make sure that you are not taking it in combination with medication or other supplements that you are not supposed to be taking. Ensure you never take more than the recommended daily allowance and always do your research. Natural foods are always better and advised.

Why do you expect to receive? Let me tell you my biggest gift

I know a while ago I wrote about disappointment, this time around I want to write about expectations and the gift of receiving. In my life I have had to ask very little of my parents, not because I didn’t need, but because they have always over provided. For this I am more than thankful and indebted forever. They gave me the gift of life, an education, love, compassion, encouragement, money, support, help and all the things necessary for me to become who I am today. It is funny how much we actually receive and how much more we actually want, be they physical things or otherwise. It might not be things we necessarily need, but we feel at that moment in time they would make us happy.gift_of_time

The people I have asked the most out of, well I would have to correct the term people and just say my husband and the other entity, if you want to be more correct, would be God. What can I say I am a needy wife and child. From them I have asked the world and they have always provided, even if it hasn’t been in time. In- between I have been disappointed. But why? well I think that I was disappointed because I always expected, as if I deserved. When I never expected from my parents and I received I felt I had received more than I deserved and I felt good. So was the key here is expectation? Yes, indeed it is. If we do not think we deserve, when we receive we will be overjoyed.

Where does this feeling of grander come from? Well, I believe it comes from many places:

– lack of confidence

– overcompensation

– spoilt

– complexed

They don’t sound like very good things do they, well we should try and cut them down then don’t you think?

It is so much nicer to give… I love giving to my son.. he gets something out of it and so do I. Now I am beginning to understand why my parents like giving me things, or so I have deduced. The best gifts have been wise words and lessons, those are the things that build memories and that remain forever. Material things fade and become dated and unwanted.

I remember a few important lessons my father taught me:

When I was going to school one day my looked at me and said : “Lilly, enjoy these years they will be the best years of your life. You have no obligations and are care-free, you can do anything you want to.” I thought he was being silly and all I wanted to do was grow up faster, but I still took in all those memorable years with both hands.

Then I turned nineteen and went to university and my dad said: “Lilly, enjoy these years as you get to learn your career and you are growing into an adult who can be self-sufficient and take care of herself. You are becoming independent and can go out and have fun with friends, but don’t forget to work hard. Make these years count and go wherever you want to. They were my favourite!” I thought they were his favourite cause he must have partied hard and it is easier to remember these years than the rest of them. So I worked hard and enjoyed myself.

When I got married my dad said to me: “Lilly, enjoy this time you have with your husband. You don’t have any children and you can do many things. No obligations yet and you are with the person you love. What better thing?” – This time I probably took mostly for granted and found it hard to grow into my adulthood.

When I got pregnant my dad said to me:” Lilly, enjoy the pregnancy because soon the little one will pop out and you won’t have time for anything. It is beautiful to be pregnant.” – so I did.

When I had the baby my dad said to me:”Lilly, enjoy this time with your son because it is so special. He is small and he needs you. He isn’t hard work and you get to feed him and bond with him and laugh.” – so I am, but I have taken a step back and thought of all the things my dad has said to me.

What he didn’t realise is that he was teaching me the biggest lesson of them all and giving me the biggest gift. He gave me memories and he gave me time. He taught me to enjoy life, every minute of it. Everything that happens is special and things change as you experience more of it. He told me to enjoy because sooner or later things would change and we miss the things we don’t have. Regrettably sometimes we don’t see the value in the things in front of us.

He wasn’t saying enjoy only this time, but enjoy all time.

So I hope that whoever you are and where-ever you find yourself in your journey you find time to enjoy it.

Mouth and Nose Sores this winter

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Nederlands: Public Health Image Library http://phil.cdc.gov/Phil/default.asp PHIL ID# 1573 Title: Herpes simplex lesion of lower lip, second day after onset. Content Provider(s): CDC/Dr. Herrmann Creation Date: (1964) Description: Herpes simplex lesion of lower lip, second day after onset. HSV, cold sore. Source Library: PHIL (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


I never really get mouth sores, but when I was little I constantly had something at the corner of my mouth and it would never go. I remember my parents always avoiding to kiss me when that happened in case they would catch it. Now I realise what we call a cold sore, however I don’t think mine were related to that, but rather something to do with a vitamin deficiency.


As an adult I have been getting loads of nose sores, they are particularly bad if I am in a dusty environment. Both nostrils fill up with these little wounds and I find it so difficult to breathe. More than anything both symptoms are annoying!


When you have the combination the first question is, “is it  Staphylococcus (staph) bacteria?”


Apparently it can arise due to your fingertips that are harboring the staph bacteria, so an important part of treatment is the strict maintenance of physical distance between the fingertips and the nasal cavity. I suppose for those who nose pick, you got a problem.


These infections do not respond to most topical antibiotic ointments usually and are even very resistant to most anti-staph oral antibiotics, however bactroban is recommended.


Or you could have folliculitus, which is an infection that occurs where your nose hair is growing. For those of you who pluck your nose hairs I say good luck :).


Or if it is indeed a cold sore it can appear in your nose as well, but that is pretty common to spot cause it’s just a cluster of red dots, just like at the corner of your mouth.


These hypersensitivities that I have due to my allergies are starting to irritate me, “Am I supposed to walk around with a mask?”


The mouth sores don’t look pretty, the more you pick at them the worse they get and people are like yugh. Anyway, when they here the scientific name – herpes- they think of the sexually transmitted disease and then you are really in the dog box.


Worst of all is when I eat something I am not supposed to cause of my allergies, it is not only the corner of my mouth that can get infected but the inside as well. So you can have like bubbles and painful spots in the mouth too. The doctor will tell you its a staph infection and then you will be taking meds you don’t need when in fact it could just be a sensitivity you are not aware of. If you really want to be sure, ask them to take a swab rather than keep prescribing you meds you might not need.


Worst case scenario is when this is just another symptom of something more serious like Lupus or Churg-Strauss.


Sometimes the simple solutions work best, have you tried using a humidifier for the air. It is winter indeed and the air is harsher due to it being drier?


Regarding your mouth sores, there is another possibility apart from Herpes and it is called Canker.


Canker sores are not contagious. They may look like a pale or yellow ulcer with a red outer ring. You may have one, or a group of them. Women seem to get them more than men. The cause of canker sores is not clear. It may be due to:


  • A weakness in your immune system (for example, from the cold or flu)
  • Hormone changes
  • Stress
  • Lack of certain vitamins and minerals in the diet, including vitamin B12 or folate


It seems that mine is getting better now that I am taking extra Vitamin B12.


Here are some recommendations:


Mouth sores often go away in 10 to 14 days, even if you don’t do anything. They sometimes last up to 6 weeks. The following steps can make you feel better:


  • Avoid hot beverages and foods, spicy and salty foods, and citrus.
  • Gargle with salt water or cool water.
  • Eat popsicles. This is helpful if you have a mouth burn.
  • Take pain relievers like acetaminophen.


For canker sores:


  • Apply a thin paste of baking soda and water to the sore.
  • Mix 1 part hydrogen peroxide with 1 part water and apply this mixture to the sores using a cotton swab.
  • For more severe cases, treatments include fluocinonide gel (Lidex), anti-inflammatory amlexanox paste (Aphthasol), or chlorhexidine gluconate (Peridex) mouthwash.


Over-the-counter medications, such as Orabase, can protect a sore inside the lip and on the gums. Blistex or Campho-Phenique may provide some relief of canker sores and fever blisters, especially if applied when the sore first appears.






Turn the TV on or off for baby?

I have noticed that from birth my son has been fascinated with the moving images on the TV and my ipad. I wondered a lot whether this was really bad for his eyes or in general. So as I always do… I did some research.baby-with-ipad1

Most moms believe that TV is actually good for their babies, as it stimulates their mental development and they are too little to understand or become hooked on it. As long as you not making an excuse of putting the child in front of the TV cause you need it for babysitting. There was however one lady who quoted the following:

The more television that toddlers watch, the more likely they are to have ADHD when they are school age, according to a provocative study in the April 2004 Pediatrics. The study followed more than 2,600 children, initially at ages 1 to 3. The overall rate of ADHD at age 7 was about 10 percent. But for the top 10 to 20 percent of television viewers, the ADHD rate was about 3 times higher – and increased by about 9 percent for every additional hour of daily television watch. This study did not look at different kinds of programs, and certainly does not tell us what caused what. Perhaps kids who already had short attention spans were more drawn to TV. Or their parents were more likely to need the TV for relief. But it’s also possible that exposure to the rapidly shifting images of television during those years of critical brain development changed the way that those brains developed. Until we know more, it is wise to be cautious about excess television viewing in the first 3 years.

Personally I completely disagree with the article above, I think kids who are prone to having ADHD are more likely to get hooked onto the tv screen because they are predisposed in this way.  If you looked into ADHD you will find that these kids can focus on things that are of interest to them, because they are so creative.

They might be good at maintaining focus for a long time when watching TV shows they like, doing art or building Lego models.

When asked why they can pay attention so well for these favored activities and not for other important activities, such as school or work, they often explain that they can pay attention easily on activities that are interesting to them, but cannot make themselves pay attention to tasks that do not really interest them, even when they know it is important. This makes it look like ADHD is a willpower problem, but that is not the case.

I personally think that ADHD is something that is not well understood by the paediatricians and it is a label I like to avoid. A lot of this hyperactivity and lack of concentration is down to nutrition or lack thereof, allergies or behavioural problems attributed by psychological problems at home, school or in the near environment to the child. babyipad

I do however believe that doing everything in moderation and creating a balance is important. Television and electronics are part of our lives now, avoiding these things will probably slow down your child’s development in the long run, because things are all done using these devices. Unfortunately they do however have Electromagnetic Frequencies that may pose some health problems to particularly sensitive children, so do be aware if your kids become restless at night time due to these things you may want to avoid them as the day passes by.

Babies can get scared from the things they see and hear on TV so try and be careful what you show them.

Another writer, Farhad Manjoo, for slate magazine agrees that the research is based on flaky evidence:

—is that really so bad? No, it isn’t. After digging into several studies, I found that there’s little to support a zero-tolerance policy on screen time. First, the prohibition against television for babies is based on shaky evidence. While some studies show television is bad for kids under 2, others present a murkier picture. The evidence against phones, tablets, and PCs is far slimmer. As far as I can tell, there’s no research showing that letting your baby play a game on your phone for a short while will harm him in any way.