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Mouth and Nose Sores this winter

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Nederlands: Public Health Image Library http://phil.cdc.gov/Phil/default.asp PHIL ID# 1573 Title: Herpes simplex lesion of lower lip, second day after onset. Content Provider(s): CDC/Dr. Herrmann Creation Date: (1964) Description: Herpes simplex lesion of lower lip, second day after onset. HSV, cold sore. Source Library: PHIL (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


I never really get mouth sores, but when I was little I constantly had something at the corner of my mouth and it would never go. I remember my parents always avoiding to kiss me when that happened in case they would catch it. Now I realise what we call a cold sore, however I don’t think mine were related to that, but rather something to do with a vitamin deficiency.


As an adult I have been getting loads of nose sores, they are particularly bad if I am in a dusty environment. Both nostrils fill up with these little wounds and I find it so difficult to breathe. More than anything both symptoms are annoying!


When you have the combination the first question is, “is it  Staphylococcus (staph) bacteria?”


Apparently it can arise due to your fingertips that are harboring the staph bacteria, so an important part of treatment is the strict maintenance of physical distance between the fingertips and the nasal cavity. I suppose for those who nose pick, you got a problem.


These infections do not respond to most topical antibiotic ointments usually and are even very resistant to most anti-staph oral antibiotics, however bactroban is recommended.


Or you could have folliculitus, which is an infection that occurs where your nose hair is growing. For those of you who pluck your nose hairs I say good luck :).


Or if it is indeed a cold sore it can appear in your nose as well, but that is pretty common to spot cause it’s just a cluster of red dots, just like at the corner of your mouth.


These hypersensitivities that I have due to my allergies are starting to irritate me, “Am I supposed to walk around with a mask?”


The mouth sores don’t look pretty, the more you pick at them the worse they get and people are like yugh. Anyway, when they here the scientific name – herpes- they think of the sexually transmitted disease and then you are really in the dog box.


Worst of all is when I eat something I am not supposed to cause of my allergies, it is not only the corner of my mouth that can get infected but the inside as well. So you can have like bubbles and painful spots in the mouth too. The doctor will tell you its a staph infection and then you will be taking meds you don’t need when in fact it could just be a sensitivity you are not aware of. If you really want to be sure, ask them to take a swab rather than keep prescribing you meds you might not need.


Worst case scenario is when this is just another symptom of something more serious like Lupus or Churg-Strauss.


Sometimes the simple solutions work best, have you tried using a humidifier for the air. It is winter indeed and the air is harsher due to it being drier?


Regarding your mouth sores, there is another possibility apart from Herpes and it is called Canker.


Canker sores are not contagious. They may look like a pale or yellow ulcer with a red outer ring. You may have one, or a group of them. Women seem to get them more than men. The cause of canker sores is not clear. It may be due to:


  • A weakness in your immune system (for example, from the cold or flu)
  • Hormone changes
  • Stress
  • Lack of certain vitamins and minerals in the diet, including vitamin B12 or folate


It seems that mine is getting better now that I am taking extra Vitamin B12.


Here are some recommendations:


Mouth sores often go away in 10 to 14 days, even if you don’t do anything. They sometimes last up to 6 weeks. The following steps can make you feel better:


  • Avoid hot beverages and foods, spicy and salty foods, and citrus.
  • Gargle with salt water or cool water.
  • Eat popsicles. This is helpful if you have a mouth burn.
  • Take pain relievers like acetaminophen.


For canker sores:


  • Apply a thin paste of baking soda and water to the sore.
  • Mix 1 part hydrogen peroxide with 1 part water and apply this mixture to the sores using a cotton swab.
  • For more severe cases, treatments include fluocinonide gel (Lidex), anti-inflammatory amlexanox paste (Aphthasol), or chlorhexidine gluconate (Peridex) mouthwash.


Over-the-counter medications, such as Orabase, can protect a sore inside the lip and on the gums. Blistex or Campho-Phenique may provide some relief of canker sores and fever blisters, especially if applied when the sore first appears.







My little one is 4 months already and so many things to do or not to do?

Having had the best and worst 4 months of my life, I have to say I have gained a new perspective in life. I realized that a lot of the things people do is because the specialists said so or because that is conventional sociological behaviour and if you outside of this norm then you must be wrong. Little did I know that in time everything which I had been warned about did in fact come true and I would  not really regret my decisions as a parent. Finally managing to overcome my fear of being different and enjoying the pure life that I was meant to have with my child.

One thing I have to warn my readers about, especially if you are a woman is that these are my opinions and if you disagree that is fine. Everyone has the right to chose what they want to do and how they want to take care of their children. I am merely opening the doors for those mothers who want to be different, but are too scared to allow themselves the privilege.

I have always been and always will be the person that wants the most hazard free, or non-biologically engineered life. We change our foods so as to have more vitamins in them, because our soil is poor. We inject our children who have no immunity with live viral infections, we change and twist their behaviours by manipulating them with dummies and comfort blankies and while some of this is not that bad, some of it is really detrimental. Present company included by the way, not trying to be a hypocrite.

Early thoughts

Before my son had his first vaccination I was so obsessed about having him immunised.

He must have it!

I kept repeating that over and over to my mother. I was so scared my son would be in serious danger if he didn’t, what I didn’t know is that he would be in worse shape if he did.

What happened is I waited for a nurse to call me in, while I was so scared I could cry. I held my son in my lap and he got stabbed by that wretched needle in both his hips. Guess what? Yes, like every mother I sat there with tears in my eyes while I heard my child crying. I had put him through this pain and I was trying to ease myself by saying in my head that it had to be done. He ate so much straight after and I breastfed him. That was the real comfort I could provide him with, but the pharmaceutical companies would have you stop breastfeeding so that your child gets better immunity! Outrageous don’t you think?

A natural transfer of immunoglobulin occurs from mother to child by the placental route and from breast milk. This confers protection for a few months 

another source

What is the alternative to vaccinating your baby? Develop a strong, healthy immune system naturally, beginning with exclusive, long-term breastfeeding and providing your child with good nutrition and other elements that build healthy immunity. There is much you can do to strengthen your baby’s immunity to resist disease.

The best immunity your child can get is breastmilk, it contains all the antibodies your child needs and what they should be telling you is that your child does not need to be immunised as long as you breastfeeding. Guess what else?  My little ones instincts were to drink the milk that could potentially save him from getting a disease, it is as if he knew. I had been taking large doses of vitamin C before and after the immunisation, so as to prevent him from getting ill. I didn’t expect the vaccine to effect him the way it did.

That evening my baby started with the worst poo I’d ever smelt or seen. My babies poo until this point was unbelievably beautiful, if you can say that about poo. Mustard colour and grainy and just the right quantity. That evening his poo was slimy, green and smelly and it continued on for days. I was worried that my child would become dehydrated and took him to a GP. They told me he had gastroentiritus? That’s not the cause of the problem, what is that anyway? It is just a label for something people don’t understand, some sort of infection.

So if it’s viral it should clear up in 2 weeks, well his poo carried on like this for another 4 weeks, so a total of 6 weeks. I was struggling to try and get my baby to have enough going in than out and gaining weight. What a struggle it was. He was getting worse, tummy aches every morning and grumpy. This was not my child.

So I took him back and told my GP, I said that it was worse if I ate anything that had goats milk in it. Seeing as I was allergic to cows it couldn’t be that. So they recommended I put him on colief, which by the way is good stuff.

What is also in the vaccine? toxins and allergens?

There are also trace or residual amounts of 2-phenoxyethanol, phenol, albumin, sucrose, lactose, MSG, glycine, formaldehyde, and antibiotics (neomycin) in vaccines. These are very small amounts, but do we want to continually inject even small amounts of these toxins directly into our tiny babies’ developing bodies, given their inability to detoxify and how vulnerable they are to low levels of toxins? If trace amounts of formaldehyde, MSG, or antibiotics were in foods that were to be given to our babies, most of us wouldn’t allow it. Yet, these toxins go directly into the baby’s bloodstream.

Vaccines also can contain egg and yeast proteins. We delay giving our babies solid foods, mostly to avoid the proteins that can cause allergies. Why would we inject isolated proteins into their bodies at 2 months old?

so why did I think it was an allergy he developed? well because of the above and because of my family history that puts him more at risk and more sensitive, they should have warned me. but why would they make an exception?

His stools continued to be bad, but slightly better on colief. My baby had only been exposed to my breastmilk and this vaccine and now presenting with these problems? Do you think it’s a coincidence, from day one? Sure some will have you believe this.

But guess what? If you read articles posted about how the  Italian Court Ruling that the MMR Vaccine Caused Autism. The Italian Health Ministry recently conceded that the MMR vaccine caused autism in a now nine-year-old boy. What if he was yours?

You would probably think twice about giving it to your child. 5500 cases ignored in the US! outrageous.

Read people and educate yourselves, to save your children.Poor child getting vaccinated


2. Infant mortality rates between nations appears to be linked to the numbers of vaccinations given to babies before the age of 12 months. More vaccines may contribute to higher infant mortality.

3. Babies receive several vaccines at once—they may receive 8 vaccines or more simultaneously at a doctor visit (between 2 and 15 months of age). Vaccine “layering” may increase the risk for a serious vaccine reaction.

4. Vaccines have not been adequately tested for safety using methodologically sound scientific studies, so their long-term health effects are unknown. Moreover, the effects ofmultiple vaccines given together have not been adequately tested. And pharmaceutical companies have financed nearly all vaccine research to date, which introduces enormous bias.

5. Vaccines do not provide complete or permanent protection against infectious disease. For example, 75 percent of children who contracted chickenpox in a 2001 Maryland outbreak had been vaccinated against chickenpox. A high number of vaccinated persons also have been found in pertussis and mumps outbreaks.

8. Some vaccines are associated with a higher number of serious health problems, both immediate and delayed, yet healthcare professionals rarely report vaccine adverse events. Every year, more than 25,000 adverse reactions are reported to the government, including irreversible injuries and deaths. It’s been estimated that this represents only about 1 to 10 percent of total vaccine reactions, which means that millions of people may have suffered vaccine reactions and injuries over the past few years.

9. Vaccines, say some researchers, may contain excitotoxins that disrupt your child’s immune system (through microglial overstimulation) and damage developing brain structures, which raises his/her risk for a wide range of diseases, including autism, learning disabilities, and psychiatric disorders. New research gives evidence for a link between the high number of vaccines and the autism epidemic.

SO this vaccine inflamed my sons intestines and lives in there causing him to get allergies and disturbing him. Now I got to help him deal with this for the rest of my life and feel guilty for being misinformed and socially pressured. Will I vaccinate him again?


Why risk him getting a serious disease you say?

Ok hold on a sec:

1. number of diptheria cases reported in the UK in 2010, there were just eight recorded cases of diphtheria in England and Wales, and no deaths.

2.  Since 1998, no cases of polio have been reported in the UK. There are now only four countries in which the condition remains a serious problem. These are:

  • Nigeria
  • India
  • Afghanistan
  • Pakistan

3.Hepatitis B is uncommon in England and cases are largely confined to certain groups such as drug users, men who have sex with men and certain ethnic communities (South Asian, African and Chinese). There were 2,697 newly reported cases in England during 2010.

4. How do you treat measles?  this is the answer from nhs choices:

There is no specific treatment for measles. Once the rash starts, you will need to rest and treat the symptoms until your immune system fights off the virus.

If there are no complications due to measles, the symptoms will usually disappear within 7-10 days.

5. How do you treat rubella? again nhs choices:

There is no specific treatment for the rubella infection. The condition is usually mild and improves without treatment, and symptoms can disappear within seven to 10 days.

6. How do you treat mumps? Again NHS choices:

There are currently no anti-viral medications that can be used to treat mumps. Treatment is focused on relieving symptoms until your body’s immune system manages to fight off the infection.

7. Haemophilus influenzae type b Polysaccharide Vaccine – this is from the CDC website people. 

The old version:

  • Available 1985-1988
  • Not effective in children younger than 18 months of age
  • Effectiveness in older children variable

The new version:
Haemophilus influenzae type b Vaccine

  • Recommended interval 8 weeks for primary series doses
  • Minimum interval 4 weeks for primary series doses
  • Vaccination at younger than 6 weeks of age may induce immunologic tolerance to Hib antigen
  • Minimum age 6 weeks

Use in Older Children and Adults

  • Generally not recommended for persons older than 59 months of age

A research study shows that in the United States and England and Wales, giving 1 dose at 12–15 months of age would be nearly as effective, at a population level, as a full primary series plus a booster at 12–15 months of age. So why give the three doses so early? In the United States and England and Wales, Hib transmission is driven by children 2–4 years of age.

It further states the following: Third, we assume that immunity following natural infection is the same as immunity following vaccination, while, in reality, natural infection may induce longer-lasting protection. Our model could reproduce Hib incidence in England and Wales more accurately than a model that used different parameters for vaccine-induced versus natural immunity (28). This suggests the difference in protection between vaccination and natural infection may not be epidemiologically essential; however, exploring this is a topic for future research.

At the end of the day you make your choice about what you are going to do. No one can tell you otherwise, but you should make an informed choice, not just what is socially accepted.

Don’t allow people to judge you, people who don’t have the facts and who are just going with the flow. Arm yourself with the responses and the knowledge to tell them why and help them make the right choices too.

And just because you think a vaccine is going to be your child’s lifesaver think about all those children and people that got sick because of the jab itself or the failure of the vaccine, which is significant. Read.

here is another article:

Surprise! Whooping Cough Spreads Mainly through Vaccinated Populations

In 2010, the largest outbreak of whooping cough in over 50 years occurred in California. Around that same time, a scare campaign was launched in the California by Pharma-funded medical trade associations, state health officials and national media, targeting people opting out of receiving pertussis vaccine, falsely accusing them of causing the outbreak.

However, research published in March of this year paints a very different picture than the one spread by the media2.

In fact, the study showed that 81 percent of 2010 California whooping cough cases in people under the age of 18 occurred in those who were fully up to date on the whooping cough vaccine. Eleven percent had received at least one shot, but not the entire recommended series, and only eight percent of those stricken were unvaccinated.

Our baby has arrived into this world

I am happy to let you all know that on the 17/10/2012 our little baby boy was born at 3:36am. After a long awaited gestation period, we thought our bundle would decide to come on his own, however we were not so fortunate. Instead, we had to rely on the expertise of the staff that helped us initiate our labour. I had 4 stretch and sweeps and he had been engaged for days. At the first stretch and sweep I was already 1 cm dilated with a soft cervix and not much left of it either. At the next stretch and sweep, 2 days later I was already 2 cm and the cervix was low and the waters could have been broken. At the third there was about a 1.5 cm left of my cervix and still 2-3cm dilated. At the fourth and final stretch and sweep on the day of induction I was already 3cm dilated, but the cervix had moved up as the head of my baby had almost fully engaged. It was odd that I had not gone into labour as the cervix was very soft and could easily stretch by a lot.

I then had to patiently wait with my husband, my dear friend and my mother in law for a spot to open up in the delivery suite. The nursing staff were great and offered me a spot at about 3:15pm. I had already come into the hospital at about 9am to get things going. I knew it was really important that I deliver this baby as soon as possible, as my condition was beginning to flare. In the last 3 weeks of pregnancy I was experiencing a lot of discomfort, I was scratching and being itchy when this had never really been the case once I had actively changed my diet and also on medication. I had to up the dosage and also to ensure that the last 2 months I was on vitamin K daily to reduce the risk of blood clotting problems.

My waters were broken at about 5pm, thereafter I became extremely hungry and decided to take a long walk to the restaurant. I was having irregular contractions and they were lasting about a minute. However, they were maximum 3 minutes apart, so after a couple of hours my body just could not cope with the strain. They became very strong and I was only 4cm dilated by that stage. The nursing staff were saying the labour would last another 7 hours and I would have to put on a  syntocinon drip to get the contraction to regulate. However, syntocinon also increases your pain and I was already asking for different pain relief options.

I went into the hospital adamant that I would not have much more than just gas and air and use the tens machine, however I ended up with an epidural. At about 5 hours of labour I realized that my body had gone into shock and that I would not be able to cope. I asked for paracetamol, they offered me cocodamol, as they were doing this I was told that I would probably not really last like this. I realized quickly that it would be better to go for pethadine, knowing the risks involved, and given that I was going to labour more than 4 hours I was happy to take the risk. I was told however that this would only take the edge off and it would get much worse for me so it was important to consider the last option “self administered epidural”. In the end I was begging for it. A very good consultant anaesthetist friend of my dads who works at the hospital got out of bed to come and administer this. The minute that kicked in, I was so much more relaxed. My body was still going through shock and labour, but at least I was not uncomfortable and was able to let my body deal with this. I laboured as we expected for many more hours after.

I topped up the epidural only once every hour and I had a saline for my really low blood pressure. I also spiked a small fever but nothing drastic, as it was only a flush. When we got to stage two labour they said i need to start pushing, as I was fully dilated and I could feel the head really low down. I stopped administering the epidural and began my 1 hour and 2o minute second stage labour. Lots of pushing and hard work later ended up with catching my beautiful baby boy.

I had a hematoma and a small internal tear, but that will hopefully heal soon and I have just to be thankful that me and him are alive and well. Baby got an apgar score of 9 in the first minute and he was slightly smaller than expected (46cm and 2.68kg). I didn’t bleed heavily due to the syntocinon drip. Also my placenta was the shape of a little heart which was really cute to see.

I am not at all disappointed to have opted for the use of an epidural, you can still have a natural birth and feel everything if you can administer it yourself. I am so proud to say that I laboured well and that baby is fine. No one gives you a medal at the end, you just have your little family and that’s what matters.

We are now facing the challenges of breastfeeding etc. but we have learned to latch on well and hopefully things will be less bumpy.

Don’t forget to burp your babies, or you may end up awake all night with the poor little felas in tears because of colic.

Lastly, I just want to thank my dear friend and husband for supporting me through a very drawn out labour and also to my family for being there. It means so much!

How to cope with disappointment?

I’ve had my share of disappointments over the last few weeks. Especially with regards to how I would have liked or would like certain things to work out.

I have had to come to the realization that sometimes no matter how in control you think you are, some things are just out of your hands no matter what you do.

It feels like you nudge things in the right direction, sometimes for ages and yet they come out all wrong. So in the end what is disappointment?
Well, it’s actually a state of mind. It is what we chose to be in a given moment in time. To be a good manager we usually handle the expectations of our staff and of our clients, but what we actively forget to do is handle ourselves. This is what most of us call as preparation or acceptance, acceptance usually comes after we want to move past disappointment. Preparation is not always possible, however there are the wise few who always say keep an open mind.

I think keeping an open mind when you are an organized project manager, or a person with the qualities to want to make lists and who doesn’t like the unexpected, is hard. What can you do?
1. You can start by clearing your mind and relaxing. Breathing techniques can work wonders. Breath deep and exhale slowly.
2. Focus on the bigger picture, goal not the nitty gritty of each and every step of the journey.
3. Begin to feel the excitement of the possibilities ahead of you.
4. Embrace the changes as positives as they happen. See them as opportunities or safeguards for the better or even better see them as challenges.
5. Challenges are there because you can achieve more and go further.

If all else fails work out and burn those bad boy thoughts!!

What do you think? You think you can do it? If not today, don’t worry with time comes wisdom and patience will get you there.

Why do women nag?


Nagging can have a profound negative effect on a relationship, but also a negative psychological impact on the children who witness this act between two parents.

Before you jump to conclusions, we don’t just do it for fun or because it is in our genes.

Nagging habits develop through frustration, disappointment, anger and the feeling of being disrespected. Women generally are very active in their homes and they like to feel comfortable, this is because they have the feeling of nesting.They like to feel relaxed, comfortable and cosy. When a women sits down to rest in her mind a swarm of chores is encircling in a big fat list and the more she notices her surroundings she begins to acknowledge that there are things around her that are not quite right. She therefore cannot feel proud of the house or “nest” that she is taking care of for her family, therefore she cannot rest. It is difficult even if she tries to do this. This can also contribute to restless, sleepless nights filled with reiteration of that list, just in case she forgets something.

Over time the frustration of having to put items on the list aside, for extended periods of time, makes her agitated and nervous. She begins to problem solve and sees that you, her man, would be the perfect saviour to help along with these problems. After-all this is what she married you for! She approaches you, you hate doing chores but you feel obliged to help your wife. She works just as many hours as you, cooks and supports you and has been doing the majority of chores, if you are honest with yourself, for years. During this time you noticed her getting tired, but it didn’t bother you much. You thought giving her mental support and cuddles was enough, because she never complained before and never really asked you for help. You never wondered why that was, but if you did you would have come to the conclusion that she truly loved you. You would feel guilty and possibly think twice about how you showed her you loved her back. Now you might think, “oh, was that the reason she kept asking me if I love her? and I thought it was a stupid question that made me quite irritable.”

There are days you just can’t be bothered, you fall into a habit of not doing things regularly, you are tired and want to relax more. Maybe you want to play games, go out for beers, watch tv etc. When this happens, you have allowed yourself to take time out, but she cannot do afford to do this. The minute she does, everything will tip out of balance even more until your woman will become depressed and unable to handle the demands of life.

So next time your lady is nagging you, think to yourself why? The nagging is really a sign of desperation that you would acknowledge her and respond to her cry for help. All she wants you to do is respect her efforts and help her out. After all isn’t this what you expect from your boss at work? If this doesn’t make you feel like you are a hero or a boss at home, then I don’t know what will?

Unless you can afford to pay someone else to help your wife, you better get on with it!

God forbid the next time she has man flu and you got to do it all on your own. Well if you help her now, chances are she will be less stressed and healthier.

In the end we love each other and therefore should respect each other by helping one another.


The critical 28 week pregnancy results

Everything was going fine apart from the tiredness and trying to adjust to the anticipation of becoming a parent. The overwhelming emotions of knowing the responsibilities and the worries you will have when becoming a parent, counting every day as a blessing as your child thrives and grows up and faces the challenges in life. Thinking about how to be less overprotective so that they can develop their confidence. Can you imagine thinking all this and your child isn’t even born yet?

Sometimes, you as a new mom your mind is blocked and all  you can think about is up to the day you expect to have labour. That fear of giving birth is completely stimulated by people’s difficult experiences and that all amazing TV. Then, on-top of it all… the current reality hits you.You think you have done all you can to have the optimum birth, but sometimes physiology takes over!

This is where my nightmare started: My results up until this point were normal and then suddenly my liver function test (ALT) levels rose to double what was the upper limit. ALT in this country goes up to 60, my results were 131. I had specifically asked my midwife for these test as I had read about obstetric cholestasis and had some of the symptoms, so I wanted it investigated. It is not part of the routine check ups, but I recommend anyone having IBS, family history of gallbladder stones, liver problems etc to have this test performed.

My thyroid was also tested due to the tiredness I was experiencing, but that was normal.

The night I found out about my results was one of the worst nights of my life, at that stage having parents who knew medicine was worse than having parents who wouldn’t have known. My husband didn’t eat a thing and I was crying and panicking. Words like stillbirth, premature labour and maternal death kept spiralling in my head.

I went to my antenatal class and cried to my fellow mom’s to be and midwife teacher. I think what made it difficult was that no one had called me to let me know and I found out my results through my father, so I called the hospital later and they said that everything was normal even though i asked them specifically to look into the ALT. I had a brief couple of days of relief, until my midwife was on shift again that Sunday and gave me a call to let me know that further tests were required and that that were slightly worried. So the panic continued till the next set of results came out, worse than before. This time my bile acids were also in the abnormal range (normal is from 0-14 and mine were 24). And so it went on for 3 weeks,numerous irregular results. So I was sent to hospital straight away after my third lot of results and put on a fetal monitor and more bloods were taken.

This is the start of my moaning about the NHS service here in Basingstoke. Lot’s of capable staff, the unit was completely under-resourced and I feel for the midwives working there.

The midwife was very busy, but she kept popping her head in and out of the room assuring me that the doctor would soon come and see me. 5 hours went by and none of the doctors came, I was handed a prescription with the normal meds for treating obstetric cholestasis. I knew the meds were for this diagnosis as I was well aware of the condition, however thinking about it now makes me sick because a patient with no knowledge would be extremely confused at this point as they would have not even known what that meant at all.

No doctor spoke to me about the risks of taking the medication, the risks to the baby, the condition etc. I found it unacceptable and got rather angry. I wanted to see a doctor! The midwife said that the doctor was too busy to see me and demanded to be called to discuss the medication before commencing it.

On my way out of the ward I was greeted by my consultant father whom I briefed about my situation, he was furious and demanded to see the doctor that hands out prescriptions without seeing his patients.

They sat us back down in the waiting room and the midwife went to call the doctor. She came back and said “The doctor wants to know if the woman wants to see him or if her father wants to see him, because if it is the woman then he will come and if it’s not then he won’t.” I was shocked, firstly I didn’t appreciate being called by my name, I might as well have been called a cow or another number. Secondly, I requested him to come and therefore he should have had the decency to do so.

I told the midwife that I wanted to see him in the presence of my father. The midwife scurried off wasting more of her time being the doctor’s go between person. She came back and said “The doctor cannot see you now, he is leaving. He will do handover and you will have to wait longer, because the doctor he is handing over to has an emergency to attend to.” I found this even more insulting, he could not face me for his mistakes and was a coward. Also, it shows a complete disrespect to me as a patient and medicine as a profession!

I immediately informed the midwife that I would file a complaint. She asked me if she should go and let the doctor know, I said that whether she did or not I would raise a complaint anyway. She told him and he said I should just go and do it. The midwife then brought in the general manager who actually knew me. She said she was sorry and was going to arrange for someone to see me. Which later turned out to be a consultant who was rather shocked at my story. She explained all the related risks and about the medication, then she handed me a guideline about treating OC. This guideline wasn’t being adhered to and thank goodness I could understand it because I have some medical knowledge, but to another person it would be like reading ancient greek.

We requested all the tests as per the guideline and as of yet I am waiting for some of them to be performed.

You will all be pleased to know that the medication I was prescribed (ursodeoxycholic acid) with a combination of a good fat free diet (minimal meat, no diary, and low intake of breads and such foods) has brought my bile acids and ALT back to normal. The only problem with this diet is that you need to make sure that you are eating other foods rich in iron as you can become anaemic.

Also, even though your bloods can come back to normal you will still before offered to be induced at 37-39 weeks. I would recommend you wait as long as you can if your baby is healthy and happy, because you face risks of your baby getting respiratory related problems and a failed induction, which can be quite stressful and problematic.

Anyway, I have accepted what is going on with me and just taking every day as it comes. Monitoring myself regularly and being as balanced as possible.

Now I can look forward to my easy birth, which is something that keeps being reiterated to me at my daisy birthing antenatal classes.

Next time I am going to write to you about blood transfusions between relatives. Please let me know if you have any questions regarding any of the above. OC is nothing to be worried about, it just needs to be monitored and well treated and things should go smoothly.

Finding out I am pregnant

Love the bump

I have been worried all my life that I would not be able to get pregnant easily. My mother found it very difficult with me, it took her 1 year and a half. However, the opposite was true.

When you are young and you get to that stage in your life when you would like to think that starting a family is the next step, sometimes you question your body and it’s abilities. You have never put it to the test before, so it’s completely new.

Well one night on the 14th Feb, yes on Valentines, I decided that I didn’t feel like myself and needed to check what what was happening. That night my husband and I held a positive pregnancy test in our hands and we looked at each other with confusion. I kept asking him what the cross meant. We didn’t believe it at all, so when we went to South Africa we had organised an appointment with the gynaecologist and there little baby Dino was huddled in my little womb. Waving his little hand like the queen and chilling out. He looked like a little bean, but still a small version of a little person.

The first couple of months of my pregnancy were extremely difficult. I was really tired, I felt like I had been hit by a truck or  a bus maybe. Something huge in any case. I had to sleep everywhere, my blood pressure and sugar was low. I wasn’t hungrier or anything, just felt nauseous some days. They are very subtle symptoms that come about during this time. I was beginning to have a very strange rash on my face, very mild reddening. Somehow you know things are different in your body.

The tummy slowly started forming and very quickly I began to not be able to fit into my size 6 clothes anymore. Size 8 – 1o was fine for sometime. I decided to quickly move to wearing maternity clothes, so as to feel free and not obstruct the baby growing inside of me.

I never drank, never smoked, took plenty of rest, tried to keep calm and happy. I began eating loads of fruit and vegetables. I couldn’t eat meat for a long time. I craved feta cheese and could eat plates and plates of fruit. Fish tasted like meat and chicken was no good either. After about 3 months I slowly started eating fish again and chicken. Then in my 4th month I started eating meat from time to time and now it doesn’t bother me much at all. Beef has always been a problem though. I followed the nhs guidelines strictly and can’t wait to be able to eat pate and sushi soon.

At the same time my friend had her little baby girl and my other friend was also pregnant with a baby girl, everyone around me had started having families. It was really encouraging to be around people in the same circumstance.

Telling my family and friends was the most exciting part, we questioned when it would be the right time. With our parents we decided to let them know immediately, but then again some people like to wait. With our close friends we waited unit after the first scan and with the rest of our friends we waited till we were at least 3 months. The first 3-4 months of pregnancy things are always a little riskier and we would have preferred not to say much just in case. People slowly began to become suspicious due to me not touching any alcohol at all, I had to use a variety of reasons why not.

By 4 months I was craving sugary things and was allowing myself to eat something now and again that was probably not the best for me. I didn’t really put on weight as such. My bump was starting to form, but was really small and you would not know that I was pregnant.

I only got my energy back around 5 months and I was back to normal, more able to do chores on the weekends and take care of my husband. I regularly read about pregnancy, breastfeeding, giving birth, breathing and exercises. I couldn’t really do much exercising as I found it hard to exert myself physically, I regularly was out of breath when trying to do too much like run up a flight of stairs.

I had a couple of scares during the pregnancy: 2 of them were related to severe back pain and had many episodes of ligament pains around the pelvis, which came in the form of cramps. Also, 1 time I also had a really hot sensation overcome my body while sitting down in the train and I thought I was going to collapse. That scary episode got me admitted at the hospital for observation.

I can give you some advise about those type of things:

1. Pregnancy women do get dizzy and faint. Make sure you always drinking and eating snacks.

2. Avoid congested transport

3. Wear cotton and keep cool

4. Don’t stress

5. Take your pregnacare supplements, they are really good as they make sure you are taking the right dose of folic acid which is needed for the baby not to develop any disorder like spina bifida.

6. Take calcium and magnesium – it eliminated my back-pain completely and no more cramps!!

7. Stay a minimum of 20-30 min in the sun a day for vitamin D, it helps with all the absorption of other nutrients and is key for your happy health.

In the next article I will tell you more about what happened to me in my third trimester.

The second just flew by so quickly, as there wasn’t much to it. I managed to also start antenatal classes to help with the mental side of things.

Dreaming during pregnancy is very vivid and you can have nightmares and wake up often, also because you need to go and pee. The bladder seems to get smaller as time goes by. Also, when you get tired you tend to get grumpy, so prepare your men for that.